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A blind spot of the International Code of Marketing of Breast-milk Substitutes

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codebook2Medicalization of breastfeeding first and foremost eradicates women and the relational aspects of a nursing relationship between a woman and her child. Medicalization of breastfeeding castrates a nursing relationship between two people to a food transaction between anybody and everybody and a child. This profound lack of understanding of the nature of a nursing relationship between two people leads to disastrous policy that backfires on women and children in a multitude of ways from lack of financial and work protection to blatant exploitation of women’s reproductive abilities (poaching) that results in effective killing of a nursing relationship.

 

Narrow medical understanding of a nursing relationship as food leads to a reduction of breastfeeding to breastmilk as we see in the name of the World Health Organization resolution of 1981 – International Code of Marketing of Breast-milk substitutes (emphasis mine). This further leads to the goals of the document to be focused around milk and the appropriate swapping of milks while negating the process of breastfeeding as vitally important and not replaceable by bottles.

The aim of this Code is to contribute to the provision of safe and adequate
nutrition for infants, by the protection and promotion of breast-feeding, and by
ensuring the proper use of breast-milk substitutes, when these are necessary, on the
basis of adequate information and through appropriate marketing and distribution.
It is not surprising that not many women breastfeed today, opting for milk extraction with pumps, supporting million dollar breastpump industry, and eventually, downsliding to artificial milk feeding as prolonged pumping is not sustainable on a large scale. It is not surprising the quest for perfect formula,ever so close in composition to breastmilk, continues.
Breastmilk is NOT breastfeeding.

 

 

 

Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

August 23, 2016 at 10:47

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IBCLC training and fear of women

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Medicine as a science is permeated with fear of women and nature. Science has set in to harness nature. Medicine has been waging a war on just about everything under the sun. Indeed a scary and militant attitude. When a woman embarks on the road to get a medicalized certification to help other women breastfeed, she unknowingly subjects herself to subtle and legitimatized brainwashing that will impart  women-fearing or women-hating ideas to her.

When I went through nursing and later IBCLC training, I could not help but notice that what I knew as a woman from experience can be hijacked by fear mongering “science”. Science is very number oriented and every human experience is bound to be shoved into a plot, a chart, a number. Except human experiences are so varied that they are best explored through qualitative data that is extremely complex and requires knowledge AND experience well beyond book cramming required to pass multiple choice exams that will grant you a piece of paper certifying you as the expert in this and that.

After I completed IBCLC training I made a decision to distance myself from counseling women as I deemed myself of more danger to women as somebody with a medicalized view of breastfeeding than ordinary women without any training. I knew I was infected with a virus that I could not see, but I knew I had it. You see, I knew women were brave and courageous. Many breastfeeding hurdles are overcome with hope, determination, perseverance, encouragement, and rapid turnover of troubleshooting ideas. Women gain ground in breastfeeding in uncertain situations due to confidence and knowledge that most women can and will breastfeed successfully. Medical knowledge takes this away.

The medicalized IBCLC approach draws upon the standard practice of relying on numbers to reveal “the truth”. Not unlike the labor partographers that maimed many women whose labors did not progress neatly by the graph, IBCLCs are trained to plot women’s breastfeeding progress through number oriented measures and “intervene” when women fail to fit the charts. Interventions that interfere and hijack breastfeeding usually start in the first two days postpartum because women and their newborns fails to meet  quotas of feeds, poops, or weight gain. As a result of these aggressive women-fearing and doomsday-expecting actions of medical providers many women never breastfeed. A lot of women today are destined to nurse a breastpump never experiencing the pleasure of their babies nuzzling at mothers breasts. And their babies never know the warmth of mother’s breast in their mouth, just the artificial silicone taste of a bottle nipple.

While medicine is hailed as god sent to people, women should not forget and study the history of medicine’s treatment of women as well as misogynistic philosophy that underpins medical thinking and reasoning. Only then women would be able to safely use some medical knowledge to their advantage in the few situations that do require it.

Social attitudes towards women in medicine. Have we changed?

Robert S.Mendelsohn. Male Practice. How doctors manipulate women

Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

July 9, 2016 at 11:03

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When ideas come before women and children

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Medicalization of breastfeeding does not have any noble reasons behind it.  The plan to launch a new medical professional, an IBCLC, was driven by a desire to make money, not to help women. It is not very different from establishing a monopoly of obstetricians in the birth scene in the early 20th century.  The matters get further complicated when support and well-being of women take second place to THE IDEA. No matter how beautiful and wonderful, abstract ideas are harmful to women.  “I had one breastfeeding advocate (well known) tell me that she was willing to lie, steal and cheat to get to a breastfeeding society.” (from personal correspondence)”.

Fast forward to 21st century. The idea of breastfeeding crushes the psyche and lives of hundreds of thousands of women, but the machine is turning its gears. Breastfeeding machine has no consideration for women, just for the cause, the idea, “the greater good”.  Last night I came across a disturbing discussion dissecting a new mother.

Harrassment of a new mother by lactation professionals

A bored doctor prowls the Internet looking for tongue-tie when asked or not asked to. This is the same MD who tore Nancy Mohrbacher apart for questioning the science of tongue-tie diagnostics.  Doctors have a long history of looking down upon women, so the attitude and approach of the doctor is not surprising. What is of interest here – the overwhelming response from women, some of whom are IBCLCs, indoctrinated in the medical attitudes towards women during the course of their training, – the disapproval, the questioning of the woman’s mental faculties, the undermining of a new mother’s judgement, when she openly stated that she had not been looking for any advice and that unsolicited advice was not welcome. One respondent dreamily wished that this mother becomes a “platform for oral restriction awareness”. My estimate is that less than 3% of replies were, in fact, supportive of the mother to draw the line whom she listens to and whom she doesn’t and accepting the fact that women can post online for reasons other than looking for unsolicited advice.

Can we confidently say that the golden age of mother-to-mother support is over and the age of breastfeeding dictatorship has set in? Is this the age when women are all but forgotten and the only thing we remember is THE IDEA of breastfeeding? Do the new professionals who do lip service to their origin by uttering “mother is the expert” continue the undermining of women just like so many professionals have done before them? Just how far do the new breastfeeding professionals are willing to go in their scheme of “lie, steal, and cheat” to get to a breastfeeding society? Most importantly, would you want to live in a society like this? I know I don’t.

Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

June 21, 2016 at 09:22

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How blurring breastfeeding and breastmilk opens doors for formula marketing

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Substitution of breastmilk for breastfeeding is the first step in formula marketing. Swap breastfeeding as a complex relationship  for a (breast)milk feeding, then swap (breast)milk for (artificial) milk aka formula. Voila! Patent breastmilk components, improve formula composition to mimic breastmilk, open commercial and non-profit milk banks… all to the detriment of women and children who miss out on the nursing relationship. Reducing breastfeeding as a complex relationship between two people to milk feeding then opens a door for the rhetoric of choice when a consumer can choose between two products, two milks. One milk is ever improving to mimic the other.

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This is a Nestle ad poster in a Ukrainian clinic where breastfeeding and breastmilk feeding are equated and terms are blurred to make formula marketing easy. Since medicine does not differentiate between nursing at the breast and breastmilk feeding from a bottle, nobody notices the gross deceit of the women and the public.

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Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

May 19, 2016 at 21:03

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Medicine castrates breastfeeding into one story

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What are available to people in private spaces – the dinner table, the birth room, the deathbed

– are all being controlled more and more under industrial rubrics, with profit a core value.

A Bun in the Oven: How the Food and Birth Movements Resist Industrialization by Barbara Katz Rothman

This is a quote from a book of one of the greatest scientists of our times – Barbara Katz Rothman. I am tempted to add that the same sentiment applies to what is available at the breast or rather in a bottle. When I watched my co-worker struggle with “breastfeeding” which was nothing but a feeble attempt to extract milk from the tortured breasts of an exhausted woman, I realized that what women pass as the stories of breastfeeding had nothing to do with nursing at the breast the way I knew it.

Medical and current social context dictate that breastfeeding is first and foremost food. Milk. Nothing more, nothing less. Medicine has a peculiar way of stripping any human experience of its meaning be it birth, suffering, pain, eating, sickness, breastfeeding, or death. In the eyes of medicine all of the above are nothing but a chain of biochemically driven events that are to be controlled for best outcomes. Birth becomes fetus extraction, death – brain wave disappearance, food – a combo of carbs, fats, and proteins, and breastfeeding becomes milk in a bottle. At times, medical interpretation of health or disease gets infused into an already castrated meaning of any human experience. You will never hear an OB-Gyn exalt the beauty of birth or a dietitian rave about the taste of biscuits and gravy.

The stories of breastfeeding that I hear passed on around me are of pain, struggle for milk, self-doubt, and failure. If I heard all that I’d never breastfeed. Yet none of the women around me actually had a chance to nurse without interruptions by bottles, pump, shields, work, and other disruptions created by modern society.  None of them experienced the joy, the elation, the pride of seeing a whole human grow big and strong sustained by your own body for years at a time! None of them witnessed healing of  an illness at the breast. None of them felt despair, loneliness, pain, or frustration disappear when a child tormented by feelings finds zen at her mother’s breast. For them the magic of nursing at the breast was hidden by a culture that tells a story of “breastfeeding is milk” that eventually morphs into the story of some milk swapped for artificial milk. And artificial milk is less trouble.

Even when I talk to the few women who did breastfeed, for an understandable reason they repeat the one and only story they hear over and over again in the media, read in parenting books, or hear from their friends who all hear the same one story that reinforces itself. I even talked to a woman who kept repeating newborns nurse every 2-3 hours. When I asked her how often her home born baby nursed, she recollected that it was much more frequently than every 2-3 hours, more like every half an hour. Why did she repeat the story that was very different from what she experienced?

When I read an article Everything You’ve Heard About Uncle Remus is Wrong  I really enjoyed a TED talk by a Nigerian writer Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie “The Danger of a Single Story”.  What we see happening with breastfeeding right in front of our eyes is castrating many stories of breastfeeding, of nursing at the breast into one story of milk in a bottle.

 

Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

May 10, 2016 at 13:15

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Anti-choice culture parading as pro-choice

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I was getting a massage from a long-time friend whom I met at an LLL meeting. We lazily chatted about good ol’ days when we met, how she nursed under a blanket that attracted more attention than nursing itself, and how she was now limiting her one-year-old’s nursing in public. She didn’t use to with her older ones, now she does. I probably would too. In fact, I would be afraid to nurse in public now. The backlash against nursing women is so strong, the message that breastfeeding is not welcome so prevalent, it is scary to breastfeed. I see breastfeeding women bring bottles to company gatherings, I see lactation rooms that imply I must leave a baby elsewhere and sequester myself to extract milk should I need to, I read about laws that will pay for a pump or a mother who is admonished in court for not “maintaining decorum” when she nurse her child. Clearly, in the US the culture of substance feeding is well and alive. The culture that values women’s roles in nursing/mothering children is nowhere to be found. I can be substituted with a substance in a bottle (to the tune of Sting’s Message in a Bottle🙂

In the following weeks I engage in a debate with a presumable IBCLC who accuses me of being anti-choice as well as “wishing babies dies because of no formula available to them”. This was the most hilarious and scary accusation I have ever heard from a supposed breastfeeding champion of a gold caliber. She could be a poster child for formula promotion in a culture that is already very supportive of both bottle and formula feeding. Then I see a discussion of what great resources there are for formula feeding mothers in an LLL Leader group. Now, LLL Leaders by their training are not qualified, authorized, or allowed to teach about formula.

I cannot help but wonder why every single breastfeeding support group advocates formula feeding and abandons the pro-choice stance of breastfeeding advocates who denounce formula thus, in fact, creating a choice in an otherwise choiceless formula culture. All while forcing women who cannot breastfeed to extract milk to feed the state.

PS. Back in the early days of my breastfeeding advocacy career I wrote two articles. The first article I ever wrote was First Weeks of Breastfeeding. The second article I wrote was How to Wean your Baby (From the first days after birth to the age of self-weaning). The reason I wrote it because I saw many women weaning in some barbaric ways that ultimately hurt them. The desperation of women who do not want to continue breastfeeding is reminiscent of the desperation of women who do not want to be pregnant. They will do anything, even it if detrimental to their health or life, to set themselves free. Medical advice on weaning was similar to breastfeeding advice – harmful. I thought it was important to let the women know they have the power and means to stop nursing any time they wished.

 

Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

May 3, 2016 at 09:29

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Violence in medicalized breastfeeding help

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I was helping a coworker with some breastfeeding issues. She was an MD who came post IBCLC, post pediatrician help with the usual mix of pump-expressed milk-formula-nipple shield. She was underslept, exhausted from the juggling of devices and substances and ever so distant from actually breastfeeding her baby. After a quick chat over the messenger I could not see any reason why she was sent on a path of all the gadgets so off we went to see if nursing at the breast can be improved.

My initial concerns were for the mother herself. The medicalized breastmilk extraction frenzy that everybody seems to be so concerned about wears out women in no time. A dead mother is not good for breastfeeding. Or anything else for that matter. When I get cases like this I would like to see  that a mother gets some sleep, eat some food (not vitamins, not smoothies, not supplements, not pills for milk or teas for milk, but food, something prepared at home), takes a shower, inhales and exhales. In reality, breastfeeding has room for adjustments. It is not a race to reach the finish line in two days hospital personnel expects.

Then comes the issue of letting the baby do her job – find the breast, attach, and suckle. No number of techniques that you learn about “THE LATCH” will help the baby. Breastfeeding is a relationship between two people. You cannot impose your techniques on the other one. If we were to think of sex, imagine you learn all the techniques of penetration, then upon meeting your lover-to-be, you start prodding, forcing, pulling, ramming. It would be akin raping another person. Forced latch techniques do exactly the same – force the baby to bulk and hate you with vengeance.

I look for some supplementary info to send to the mother on a LLL website and find the infamous “feed the baby” slogan in almost every article. The mother IS feeding the baby but it does not help breastfeeding. This is what got her to me in the first place – feeding, not breastfeeding. I abandon the idea of finding an LLL article and rely on snippets from various articles on how to learn when a baby is ready to nurse, say that it may happen every 15-30 minutes, not the imaginary 2-3 hours some hospital clock admin came up with, and go over how to hold the baby. It turns out both pediatrician and an IBCLC told her to hold the baby’s head and guide the baby’s head to latch!  Sacré! Now I did read the report of a Russian breastfeeding consultant coming back from the US and retelling stories of some proud LCs about production line latch – ram! ram! ram! but I did not know it was actually happening. Apparently it does.

Medicine as a science is very unkind to people, women in particular.  Words of aggression, war, and fighting are abundantly used in medical literature and popular reports of medical endeavors. Except you cannot be aggressive in breastfeeding. It does not work. The most common word women use to describe breastfeeding is love. Not war. Not food. Not fight. Not agression. Love. Forcing a baby onto the breast or forcing a baby onto a feeding schedule will and does backfire. Unfortunately, when LLLI launched a profession with an aim to appeal to doctors and fit into medicine, they subscribed to the underpinnings of medical science with all its faults and drawbacks that historically undermined women.

The mother I was helping asked me “Why did an LC and pediatrician tell me to grab the baby by the head?” My response – Grrrrrr. No comment.

Written by Natalie Gerbeda-Wilson

May 3, 2016 at 09:09

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